If you asked me right now if a particular diet plan would work for you, my answer would be, “I don’t know”. There are many factors to consider. What’s your exercise plan? Are you already a healthy eater? Will you be? Can you stay committed? Without a clue of these things, I just couldn’t answer.
This example perfectly highlights why one can’t say if swinging saves broken partnerships. While it’s true that many find swinging enhances their relationship, there’s many other influencers that determine whether a relationship (or sex life) will make it out alive. And no two scenarios are the same!
Now, there are many success stories from non-monogamous relationships all over the world. I’d estimate that 80% of swinger couples would agree that it “saved” or improved their relationship/sex life to some degree. But with the same level of assuredness I will tell you: swinging also holds the potential to destroy it.
Listen. If you take anything away from this post, let it be this: swinging will not resolve problems like mistrust, lack of communication, or spite. Chronic issues can’t be fixed with a temporary (albeit, exciting) solution. But an enticing avenue like swinging can ignite a spark in a dull state.
So, before assessing whether swinging will rescue your relationship, here’s some important questions:
- Why am I swinging?
- What do I want swinging to do for my relationship?
- Do we both genuinely want to swing?
- What kinds of experiences do we hope to have from swinging?
- What problems or desires, if any, do we want to address/fulfill with swinging? Can swinging really make any of these better?
Put simply, swinging holds a lot of unknowns. You can theorize what will happen, but ultimately it is a web of mysteries – albeit, pretty hot and steamy ones 😉
So, will swinging rescue your relationship or sex life? If you have the fundamentals of a healthy relationship, then it could certainly have an incredible impact. But only with open communication, security, and a strong relationship to begin with can swinging be explored in a way that allows a relationship to flourish, not crumble.
A secure relationship, not a rocky one, is essential to being successful in the world of swinging.
How did swinging impact your relationship? Do you think swinging has the power to “rescue” relationships?